My real New Year’s Resolution is to blog more. Husband’s is to wear more sweatpants… the love of my life, ladies and gentlemen. sheesh.
I am in a place in my life that I’m not sure I’m prepared for. When you’re a single girl, you have a ton in common with a lot of people; the pool of single people is pretty large. Then, when you’re in a committed relationship, that pool shrinks just a little. You lose a little bit of what you had in common with your single friends. Then you get engaged and married and your pool gets even tinier (particularly when you’re as young as I am). My priorities are completely different from my single friends’ priorities.
Right now, I’m in the married, no kids pool. It’s a pretty great pool, I guess. It’s not a very easy pool for me to be in though. Husband is seven years older than me. Most of his friends have already been married for five or six years. They also have children.
Children are a complete game changer, in many ways. One of the big ways it changes your life comes in how you interact and relate to other people. It becomes a major topic of conversation and the common denominator between you and your friends.
If you don’t have kids, you don’t have that common denominator- meaning, I don’t have that common denominator. I feel like I have a really hard time connecting and relating to people who have kids because I’m not “in the club.”
Anyone else who is “married, no kids” have these same feelings? How do you deal with feeling as though you can’t relate or you’re not a part of the fun?